There are Two Moons:
The Moon of Loss and The Moon of Death. The Moon of Death is the impermanence we are all familiar with. Whether she terrifies or inspires us, death comes to us all…as does rebirth. She is the biological life cycle that keeps this beautiful planet in motion. We are carbon, we are the elements, we are everything in nature. We borrow these bodies for a short while and eventually return home when mother nature calls for them.
The Moon of Loss however is different. This Moon lives inside our hearts. There are no boundaries when the grief of loss overcomes us. There are no rules, there are no rights or wrongs. Loss is that sharp pain that pinches our insides when we realize we'll never be able to say goodnight again. She is that rogue wave of tears we never see coming. That is what we grieve for, not death…but loss. Loss will also allow us to see how far the depths of sadness go. It can allow us to dip our toes in the waters of darkness. But through the grief of loss we are also given an opportunity. One that few people take advantage of, but rather take for granted. You see, in loss we are able to harness a global perspective that we couldn’t otherwise have. A universal one. While time stands still in the face of loss we are given a gift. To observe life’s macro and micro moments. A gentle breeze caressing the leaves of a neighboring tree. A bird collecting small pieces of tinder to provide warmth and comfort for her babies. Listening to your pulse running through your entire body as you lay down at night. Loss creates room for personal and spiritual growth. Many foundations, charities, artists, life adventurers have created beautiful things from loss. There is no quick fix to healing from this pain…but that is no accident either. From this we learn to breath. We exercise our muscles of patience, compassion, and gratitude. And Time. Time is our ally in these emotionally delicate spaces. She will be our forever protector of pain. Slowly but surely, time will work on our understanding of what has just happened. I trust in this. And right now, my heart bleeds for all of you. I am so so sorry for your loss. And my door of eternal love is forever open.